Seth: “Words, in your society (or any society) have greater meaning. They are symbols for other things.
When responsibility means doing what you do not want to do because you think that you should do it, then responsibility is not fun. Neither is it true responsibility, because you are not responding as an alive individual being. You are, instead, blindly following. You are not giving when you think that you are giving, because you must be responsible when you do not want to be.
I want you to examine your ideas and beliefs about the words involved. It is important that you understand what you mean.
You do not help anyone when you help them but do not want to (in your terms). The most frivolous smile, given honestly, out of a sense of joy and fun, means that you are responding to another. They feel that response. You can relate to that person. And, that person can relate to you.
When you say, however, “I love you” because you think you have a responsibility to say “I love you” when you do not feel the emotion behind those words, then you are a liar. And, the other person knows it. You are not responding to the person. You are, in fact, denying them your individual response. And, it may be that that alone, your private response, was what they wanted and not your lies. That is simply one small example.
If you say “I hate you” but mean it, you give to the other person an honest response. They know where you stand. You are accepting them in that moment as you understand the moment.
That gives them a position. They can respond “Why?” or “I hate you” or whatever. But, there is an honest response and an individualistic one.
If you say “I love you” when the other person knows in that moment that you do not, then you are denying that person the honesty of your being and the honesty of your position. They know you do not understand them in that moment, that you do not want to, and that you prefer, in fact, dishonesty. That is not, in even those terms, responsible action. It does not allow the other person any response. If they know that in that moment you hate them, and you look at them and smile and say “I love you”, it takes the ground out from beneath their feet, as well as from your own.
It is only because you do not trust your feelings or emotions. You do not understand, for example, even in the terms in which I am speaking, that hatred can lead you to love, that hatred means “I love you but you are failing me” and, therefore, is a point of honest response and feeling.
*1974.05.28 (ESP: SAC38) – by Jane Roberts*